The polarized split was surprising. But what I found more interesting was the willingness of these women, some of whom I’ve never met before, to open up honestly (and urgently) to talk to me, never mind their therapists, about their most private issues. I wanted to find out if the professionals on the other side of the camera were experiencing the Official christmas teacher of little elves shirt kind of divide. With an almost myopic confidence, I approached my own therapist first, jumping at the opportunity to flip the script and ask her how she’s adjusted to the shift. After she kindly and swiftly declined to comment, I reached out to Jordana Jacobs, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist based in New York.
It took me until August of last year to commit regularly to weekly sessions, at a discounted rate reserved for “creative types,” with a young therapist who I now know, after a quick Google search, is a licensed marriage therapist specializing in anxiety, life transitions, and identity development. (My trifecta!) At first, I was wary of seeing someone who wasn’t my parents’ age or older, and my trepidation only grew after a series of run-ins with her at my Brooklyn farmer’s market: she’d stand, exotic produce in hand, dressed elegantly in outfits foreign from her in-session uniforms, surrounded by a cadre of other hip 30-somethings. I’d hide, crossing the Official christmas teacher of little elves shirt so as to avoid an awkward exchange. More than facing the fact that my therapist might actually be cool, I was having trouble accepting that she too was a person with a life outside of the room we found ourselves in on Tuesdays at 10 a.m.